Is it bad to give up on someone who’s too shy?

Question

theres this guy who supposedly likes me but he only speaks to me “sometimes” I see him prepping up himself to talk to me but it never happens.. it does feel good to have someone like you but it sucks still remaining single and not ever getting to know that person personally ..hoping that one day things will change when they disappoint you everytime.. idk I thought I could wait and stick it out but my sexual frustration is making me very moody and angry..I’m so sick of just being “the hot girl he likes tells everyone about but he procrastinate to ever make any moves...so I’m just done I’m gonna start ignoring him and treating him like the loser that he really is..is this bad?

Answer 1

that's horrible cuz you're Miss Perfect right

Answer 2

If you stick in there you may have to do all the talking. It may take years before he comes out of his shell.

Answer 3

You could just go to him. No offense but you clearly don't understand how shy ppl work. The more pressure we feel to break out of our shell the more we withdraw. You can't get all huffy and impatient we open when we're ready to open up it takes time. But he's the kind of shy that it may not go anywhere because he's not even making the first move or putting in effort towards trying to talk to you and you're not willing to go to him so if you don't wanna go to him and he's not going to you then maybe you should move on.

Answer 4

I am a very shy guy and I feel that I will never make the move. If I ever find a girl I will like I hope she says she loves me so I can have the courage need to also confess immediatly.

Answer 5

If you feel like there’s no hope then yeah

Answer 6

It's a pretty petulant move when all you'd actually have to do is start a conversation with him.

Answer 7

Girls like confident guys.They like guys who arent afraid to come make a move on a girl. Girls dont like guys who are shy,nervous,wimpy,overly nice and even too nice.They are considered deal breakers. The only girls who would like those guys are girls just llike them.They are each others type.



You can chose a guy for any reason you want.You can reject a guy for whatever reasons. There's no anti discrimination laws in dating. If you dont want a guy then just reject them.If a guy isnt manly enough for you it means he isnt your type.Its okay.You are free to make that choice.Its your right to. He's not the right guy for you and you arent the right girl for him.Its your move.

Answer 8

Just ask him for coffee or lunch. You won’t know if hes truly right or wrong for you until you try!

Answer 9

How willing are you to wait...if you truly like him maybe make the first move and see how he responds.

Answer 10

Some people are just not meant to be together and that's a fact. The sooner you learn this the better off you'll be. The ones you love... you keepsake them in your heart and remember them and the good times.

Answer 11

Look. The principle is love. If you don't love him, don't date him.

Answer 12

He's not interested!

Answer 13

Smile to him. He could gain the courage to start a conversation with you

Answer 14

Go for your cup of tea. BUt still respect the guy, if he deserves it, that's all I could say, who knows, maybe you aren't necessarily his cup of tea either, maybe you are, you never know. But of course, it takes two to tango, so if you just aren't interested in him in that way, he should understand and be able to move on if he's a respectable person.

Answer 15

yes, yes it is. and what are doing fr the situation, apart from sitting their waiting for him to do something and complaining when he doesn't

Answer 16

That's alright.

Answer 17

Here’s what I’d do. Ask him out for coffee or a movie. If he’s not keen, you’ve got your answer. The boy’s not ready to date anyone and he’s a waste of time for you and you should look for someone a few years older than you. I’m dating a man who’s 7 years my senior. Don’t look for anyone more than 2 years older than you until you’re at least 18, then no further than 4 years older until you’re 25 is my advice.

Answer 18

I would give him a true chance. Find out what he likes. Get him to talk about those. He’ll warm up to you. Just give a little time, just stay patient and confident. Don’t make him feel like being quiet is “wrong”.

Answer 19

His penis does not give him the responsibility of starting a conversation with you... why don’t you talk to him?

Answer 20

Once you kiss him, he should naturally take charge.

Answer 21

Well, you can talk to him. Girl power and all that

Answer 22

You can always ask him out.

Answer 23

Ask him out for a coffee to see what happens and then you will know one way or the other if he's interested in you...he's maybe waiting for you to make the first move. :)

Answer 24

Talk to him instead of just waiting. Good grief.